Challenging and Channeling Insecurties

photo collage of a scared child and people triumphing

I’ve been thinking about this subject lately. Actually, I think about it most days, from a personal point of view and journey, and from my work as a massage therapist.  

Laying down on a table sans clothes (though draped) can open the door to feeling a range of insecurities. For some people that means one’s physical appearance, flexibility, range of motion, noises the body makes (just as a reminder, everyone’s body makes noises and if that happens during a massage, it’s just another good sign that you are relaxed), or feeling like their muscles are too tight or sensitive, then apologizing for needing gentle work. Luckily, the atmosphere at my practice, and ideally for bodywork in general, is one of acceptance and people feel that. During the time someone is here for their session, they are provided the space to be able to let go of most of that evaluative mind chatter, and they usually do let go of it. We all have stories we carry around about ourselves, the ones where we’re not ___ enough or too ___, the ones where we pummel our self-worth. We can become more detached from these stories in that space and learn to carry this forward. 

But how can we hold on to that feeling of acceptance? How can we learn from feelings of insecurity? How can we incorporate them–mine them–for growth on a deeper level and for the long term? This morning, as I was combing through my starred, to-be-read email folder, I came across this insightful blog post, Zen Habits: A Roadmap to Overcoming Insecurity, written by one of my favorite bloggers, Leo Babauta. I decided I couldn’t say it any better than to share his roadmap with you. 


Here is a brief excerpt from Zen Habits: A Roadmap to Overcoming Insecurity   

The Road to Dealing with Insecurity

Here’s the secret: The obstacles actually show us the path. The obstacles are the path.

We can embrace these obstacles and work with them. In order to do that, we need to start to develop an awareness of when our insecurities are arising. We can use them as a mindfulness bell, ringing when we are troubled by fears and mistrust, telling us, “Hey! There’s some good material to work with here.”

And that’s they key: All of our insecurities are actually an opportunity to do some good work, to learn about how we work, to develop skills that will help us for life.

So start to pay attention, and notice when you’re being driven by insecurity. And then do the following work:

Forgive the past, Accept all of yourself, Practice self-approval, Embrace non-comparison, Develop trust in the moment

See the rest of this great Zen Habits post at: